My ex-landlady once told me (when I asked her how she was coping after her mum passed away) now that the departed is gone, the living must go on living.
It is true. Life goes on as usual.
Last Saturday, we went to the nursing home for the last time. Mum gave monetary token of appreciation to the nurse and two helpers in appreciation for their assistance and care of my late dad. Dad was cared for at the home from November 2023 until his recent passing.
We also donated excess consumables like diapers, gloves, colostomy and urostomy bags/flanges and sterile gauze.
After we bid goodbye to the staff, we headed to Yan Wo Seafood Restaurant.
My brother was very pleased that his favorite Melinjo leaves were available. This vegetable is delicious cooked this way with eggs.
This Thai Style Pork Knuckle was earmarked and the number one item that we wanted to order.
I love the belacan long beans. The cubes of deep fried pork fat elevated this humble vegetable dish from ordinary to special.
Only three dishes? It would have sufficed but you know my people.
My brother's call for these prawns was very appropriate because we enjoyed these crustaceans to the max. There were orange roe in the heads. Yums! Mum did not take any but she enjoyed the dark sauce.
This lunch was mum's treat.
Later in the afternoon on my walk back to Damansara Utama, I was naughty.
Wahahaha!!!
I remember after my father passed away when I was 25 years old, I kept expecting him to return home daily from work in the evening. Took quite a long time to get used to not hearing his vehicle honking when he reached home.
ReplyDeleteOnce after a few years, when I was in UK, I thought of my late father and I burst into tears and cried 😭 very hard. I guess life goes on but it would never be the same again. 🫂 Do 😭 if you need to. There is no time limit restrictions for tears.
Oh, that is so sad. The sadness will linger and it comes and goes. I still get teary eyed at times when I think of my dad. Yes, I will give myself permission to cry.
DeleteYes life goes on. Even though occasionally the thoughts of our deceased love ones and the crying may occur. Wow what a satisfying meal! I am eyeing at those prawns. Just that very jakun, i don't think I have eaten pork knuckles before.
ReplyDeleteThe sadness will come and go and I guess I have to live with that feeling. But it's ok, we are only human. I am sure you may have eaten pork knuckle, maybe in different way of cooking eg. vinegar stewed pork.
DeleteThe Thai Style Pork Knuckle looked good, but it would be better if lesser sauce, just my personal preference. :P
ReplyDeleteThe sauce was good, so I liked it that way. But the prawns, yes, I prefer less sauce.
DeleteWhen my MIL passed, we also did the same at the nursing home. So, again the "saying" of residents not lasting a year in the nursing home seems to ring true.
ReplyDeleteOh, that dark soy sauce prawns is my favourite (that's why I cook them like that at home too). Your mom refrained from eating the prawns coz she's afraid of the cholesterol-laden roe in the heads (even yummier...lol) or she doesn't like prawns (my neighbour who eats a lot of prawns also discards the heads). P/S: I thought you would go to Kar Hiong for the last time...for nostaligic reasons. ^_~
Now that you mentioned it, my brother (the older of the two) mentioned some months earlier about a conversation that he had with a client. The client said that mortality at nursing home is no more than 3 years or something like that.
DeleteMum I think was not keen to get her hands dirty peeling the prawns. Besides, she is not a fan of prawns. So my brother and I had extras hee..hee... We went to Kar Hiong the previous week, so that's why we revisited Yan Wo.